One of my favorite style bloggers is UK based Soraya De Carvalho. You can check out her blog here http://styleismything.blogspot.com. Her style is so next level to me. She never just looks dressed, she is always styled, which is evident in the details of her ensembles. Oh and can we get into that great hair? Here are some of my favorite looks from her, but there are so many more. I encourage you to explore her site for outfit inspiration. On a positive note in the midst of me applying for full time jobs, I was able to get something part time that I applied for months ago, so I’ll be posting more outfit pictures soon.
“I know who I am. I love who I am. I like what I do, and I like how I do it. I like my mistakes and I like the pace at which I learn from my mistakes. I don’t want to be anybody else but me, and by knowing this, I want to continue figuring out who the f*ck I am.”
Zoe Saldana
I came across this quote via twitter and it really resonated with me. Today I hit the pavement and went to Bloomingdale’s and Barney’s New York trying to pimp myself out to employers, but to no avail. That’s the thing about applying for jobs online. It takes away your ability to really sell yourself outside of your application. So I figured I would go to the HR department after I submitted online applications, but didn’t get to speak with anyone. I got to leave my resume with the concierge at Barney’s (she said with heavy sarcasm) but that was about it.
I treated myself to some Thai and a tasty crepe and headed home. No sooner than I got in the house did a thunderstorm start, so I ate and took a great nap. There’s something about when it rains here that makes me feel really lonely and super single. I was almost relieved when I came across that quote, because it reminded me that that’s what I should be using this time for. I keep thinking that I’m ready for a relationship, but I think I want to continue figuring out who the f*ck I am. I’ve become almost frighteningly comfortable being alone, because of all the things I continue to learn about myself. I can only hope that the person I’m supposed to be with will bring me out of that.
Use the “down time” in your life to get to know you and figure out who you are, because believe it or not you’re amazing. The confidence that comes from being secure within yourself helps you not to settle for anything less than what you want in life as a whole. The fear of being alone makes a lot of people settle for some unbelievable things, especially in relationships. I’ve been there and it’s not fun. Don’t be that person.
Everyone is on a never ending quest to find themselves. You may be comfortable at certain points in your life with who and what you are, but we always find ourselves attempting reinvent ourselves. This has become so much more apparent to me with people my age. I scroll through my Twitter feed and I see the “fake deep” contrarians who think they have everything figured out, and post tweets as if they’ve stumbled upon some great social revelation. I see the girl that has clearly been hurt too many times before, so much so that she has now begun to identify with the men that wronged her and is “going back to the old her.” Then there are the woman haters. The men that start most of their social media posts with phrases like: “a lot of y’all women need to (insert pretentious chauvinistic typical phrase here).” They’ve been hurt once or twice by a few chicks that were trying to find themselves too, and by their reasoning all women are horrible creatures that are a curse upon the earth.
At any rate, the commonality amongst people trying to find themselves or figure life out is that there’s a lot of collateral damage incurred along the way. As you try to mold yourself into who and what you want to be you come to discover that some people don’t fit into that ideal. You outgrow some people, and some become disposable. I realized that I, like many of my friends have fallen victim to this. It’s ok to want to grow and evolve, and discover the best you that you can be, but keep in mind the people you hurt on that journey. Some of us would prefer to be left off of that ride. Just a thought.
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